TGIF! Time to see the family!
This picture is a pretty good depiction of our life right now. We squeeze in any chance we can to see each other and when we do, it’s a little wild and crazy.
I am so thankful for Annalisa who does it ALL Monday - Friday while I am gone (off at Medical rotations out of state). There are good days and there are hard days. Some days the kids are great, but sometimes Annalisa is up every hour with the baby and then chasing Bryer all the next day. She is an amazing mother and one of the most active moms I know.
When the weekend comes I catch the first flight I can out of Seattle to meet Annalisa. I stay as long as possible and catch the last flight coming back, usually getting back to my place around 1-2 AM. Then I start work the next day around 5:30 AM with shifts that go 12-16 hours each day.
But that is nothing compared to what Annalisa does! 16 hour days are long but 24 hour days are longer. As a mom of two boys, and one of them a newborn, it is a nonstop continuous shift of feeding, cleaning, chasing, disciplining, entertaining, changing diapers, and holding/rocking the baby, all on very little, interrupted sleep.
I know she loves being a mom, but just like any challenging job, it can be exhausting and stressful. I point these things out to say I have so much respect for this woman!
So then when I come home for 36 hours and I hold my baby for a bit, I find it hilarious when people say “Wow what an amazing Dad!”
Wait really? I hold my baby for an hour and I start receiving accolades. Not that I don’t appreciate it, I just don’t know if I deserve it when such a double standard exists. I get praised for working hard at my job that I clock in and out of, and get praised at home for doing 1% of what my wife does 24/7. I just know that Annalisa, and most moms in general, do not receive the same praise.
Moms need more respect, love, admiration, and praise, not just on Mother’s day, but as often as possible for their unceasing hard work and dedication.
But I especially want to highlight Annalisa who during this phase of our life has to do it alone (without me) 5 days a week. She is amazing!